Alzheimer’s: the word alone is enough to send chills through family members. It came to our attention last week how even in today’s society most people don’t know much about this disease. Unfortunately my family knows first hand how it destroys a person and disrupts the peace in the family. A patient doesn’t just wake up one day with it and have no memory of their past, or be able to function as they once could. It slowly eats away at the patient’s memory until they can’t function at all. My husband was diagnosed in 1995 and refused to acknowledge it. The family wasn’t allowed to call the disease by its true name. To keep him calm we were forced to call it, “advanced brain deterioration.” He was tested by three different neurologists at three different times over the last twelve years. Facts had to be faced – finally.
When he couldn’t deny the disease any longer he tried different medications, but they all had violent side affects which left him in bed most of the day with an understandable bad attitude. In those days he did typical Alzheimer’s things that most wives would have divorced over if they had not known of the disease. Lucky for him I read everything I could on the disease. He hid money, lied blaming others to cover his own mistakes, suspected and accused family of imaginary things that too often, seemingly caring, outside family or friends would suggest for him to look out for. Often these patients will point most or their entire disruptive attitude towards the one person they trust most not to leave them.
These patients need to be protected from themselves as well as others that don’t understand the disease. They must stay on a strict diet to keep a clearer mind. For my husband, a sign something is about to go wrong is when he craves hamburgers. This is a disease where everyone has to be careful what is said to the patient. If they get a suggestion that sticks in their minds the caregiver will get the brunt of his attitude. Often this comes in a refusal of taking medications, or to eat healthy foods, even to bathe, or brush their teeth, or hair. Activity becomes a topic of rebellion with no interest in challenging his mind to keep it active.
In the beginning family and friends came to visit with him. All left telling me the tests weren’t true he was fine and ulterior motives were involved. But the conversation was always about the past which was perfectly clear in his memory. His disease hadn’t progressed that far – yet. When the subject comes to something he doesn’t know or remember he sits back and agrees with the person. He shows interest. He can, and has, been lead to believe what a persuasive person will install in his mind.
I have discovered that his diet has a lot to do with his mental state of memory. He is more confused and has to lie around when his sugar is high. It is believed that high sugar levels or levels that roller coaster lead to Type III diabetes. We were told it is commonly known as “diabetes of the brain.” To date, little is known about this type of diabetes.
Short term memory get hits first with the inability to remember little things, or words they used every day. This is a time when charades becomes helpful. Names become lost to patients of Alzheimer’s, along with the ability to do simple things, or the desire to do things that brought them pleasure. Everything needs to be confirmed again the next day or even later that day. Most things are new to them and often excite the patient enough to insist everyone around them know it, too.
All of this hits before the nursing home, diapers and a catatonic stage of existence.
One sad point to be made here is all the symptoms of Alzheimer’s echo the same symptoms of water on the brain, right down to the shuffling of feet in walking. If multiple tests are done to correctly diagnose the problem a person can develop brain damage and die when surgery could have save their life and put them back into society as a functioning human being. With my husband we will never know because outsiders talked him out of having the test for water on the brain. He tried too hard to cover his illness and ate what the co-workers ate at lunch and he didn’t listen to his doctors in the beginning when events could have changed the outcome.